Why Spending Time Alone Is The Ultimate Self Care Practice
She is the type of woman who needs alone time. She feels deep, she thinks even deeper. Her alone time allows her to figure out her mood, where her energy is, and how to take each step in life - Sylvester McNutt
This quote speaks to me on so many levels. I’m an introvert through and through and, although I do enjoy being in others company, I find that I work so much better on my own. So much so, that I’m very guilty of cancelling plans just to get some alone time - I should definitely be the poster girl for that! My friends, family and partner are my whole life, but sometimes I need to be in my own company. I feel completely at ease there!
I’ve never been a fan of being around a large group of people - I’m incredibly awkward, shy and, not to mention, an empath. Being around people completely drains my energy, and makes me crave solitude.
And there’s nothing wrong with that. It took me a while to realise this. I used to feel so bad for spending time alone. For cancelling plans. For shutting down when I’d had enough social interaction.
Now, I embrace it. I don’t apologise for wanting to be alone. I don’t make excuses when cancelling plans. And when spending time with people gets overwhelming, I politely excuse myself and find a quiet place where I can breathe for a while.
The truth is, when you stop apologising and feeling bad for spending time alone, and start embracing it, alone time becomes the best self-care practice there is.
Get To Know Yourself
Spending time in your own company can really help you get to grips with the person that you are. Only when you’re alone will you truly understand who you are and what you want from life. It gives you the opportunity of introspection and self-discovery, which is something that we should all do more of!
It will also allow you to come to terms with your present situation, far away from the influence and opinion of others. Being alone gives you the chance to make up your own mind. Say yes to independence!
Making time for yourself can reduce stress substantially. Stress often appears when we get overwhelmed by our responsibilities, emotions and everyday tasks. Our lives get hectic, we stop taking time out to do the things we want because there's not enough time in the day, and then all of a sudden we become stress-heads. Sound familiar?
Setting aside a few hours in your day to focus on yourself and your needs can make all the difference in your everyday life. Life is too short for stressful living! Take a step back from everything that is causing you to feel overwhelmed and do something that will make you feel a little better. You may find that this little break will help you find a solution to your problem. Take a look at my post 10 Ways To Reduce Your Stress Today for extra guidance.
Is it just me or do your best ideas come to you when you’re by yourself? It’s almost as if your brain is turned on by the idea of being left to its own thoughts and all of a sudden the creative juices flow abundantly!
This has everything to do with your focus. When you’re around other people, a lot of your focus goes on them. They take up room in your brain. That’s not to say that you can’t get inspired when your around other people - my friends and family inspire me everyday. But, when you’re alone, that’s when the great ideas hit!
We’ve all heard the saying ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’. It’s true. Taking a break from your loved ones can really make a huge difference in your relationship.
When you’re with someone all the time, you run the risk of getting on each other’s nerves, causing tension, arguments and upset. Not good. But when you take time to yourselves, you have the time to reflect on that relationship. You start to miss them and realise how much you actually appreciate their company.
The more alone-time you set aside for yourself, the more you will come to learn to enjoy your own company. This is a great way to increase your self-confidence and self-esteem!
When you spend a lot of time alone, you become comfortable with yourself. And the more comfortable you get with yourself, the more you begin to love yourself. This is self-care at its ultimate best!
Connect With Your Higher Self
When you’re alone with your own thoughts, your Higher Self is more likely to come out to play. Your Higher Self is thought to be many things - your intuition, your inner voice, your soul - whatever you want to call it, your Higher Self is the most powerful tool we own. It often gets ignored and forgotten with the buzz of everyday life.
But when you take time out, it makes an appearance. It wants to connect with you. To help you reach your highest potential. Next time your alone, be aware of your thoughts. Take note of what comes through. You never know, it could change your life.
When was the last time you were completely selfish? Some people see being selfish as a bad trait - and when you go overboard with it, it can be - but we all need to be selfish from time to time. And when we do need to be selfish, we shouldn’t have to feel bad about it either. Self-care is all about being selfish. It’s a necessary selfishness.
When you’re in your own company, you have the time to do the things that you love. Things that you may not be able to do in the company of other people. I like to call alone time ‘me time’, because it’s an opportunity to completely focus on myself.
Next time you have time to yourself, run a bath, do some yoga, watch that program that you’ve been dying to see but were too embarrassed to watch in front of others, pour yourself a glass of wine, dance around your house naked - whatever you feel like doing. And for gods sake, don’t feel guilty about it!
I hope this post helped you feel a little better about taking time to yourself! What do you like to do with your alone time? Let me know in the comments below!
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