Types Of Negativity And How To Rid Yourself Of Them
I like to think of negativity as a weed; you don't want it to grow but it does anyway, and if you don't take care of it quickly, it spreads until your garden is overgrown. However, if you remove it when it appears, your garden will stay beautiful.
You may have heard the phrase 'negativity breeds negativity' . If you don't banish your negative thoughts instantly, you will attract negative things in your life. Have you ever had one of those days where nothing has gone right? When one bad thing happens, it causes a snowball effect. The negativity will grow and worsen throughout the day, causing every little thing that happens to seem like the worse thing ever. How do you stop that from happening? It's easy; stay positive!
Changing you thought process from negative into positive may seem harder than changing it from positive into negative, but it's not impossible. Once you've got the hang of it, it will be so easy! Here I've put together a list of different types of negative thoughts and how you can change them into positive thoughts.
Worrying is the most common and most dangerous type of negativity. When you worry about something, it takes over and before you know it you're wallowing in your negative thoughts. This can affect your mental health and also your physical health in the long run.
Sitting there and working yourself up about 'what ifs' and 'worst case scenarios' will change absolutely nothing in your life. Instead ask yourself if there's an action you can take to make the situation better. If there is, take action. If not, instead of preoccupying yourself with worst case scenarios, push them out and fill your thoughts with best case scenarios. This will actually give you something to work towards!
Complaining about things is another common and dangerous type of negativity. Whereas worrying is an internal kind of negativity, when you complain about something it becomes external. Talking about your problems is such a normal thing, but by promoting your own negativity, you're not only choosing to focus on the bad things in life, you're also dragging others down with you.
Everyone struggles from time to time (some more than others) and sometimes it does help to talk about your problems, but only for the right reasons. Ask yourself, 'Am I bringing this up for help or advice, or am I bringing it up for my own selfish validation?' If the answer is the first, by all means, bring it up. If it's the latter, find something more positive to talk about.
We are all capable of being judgemental, not just of others but also of ourselves, unfortunately it's part of our human nature. When you're being judgemental, you're choosing to only see the negative qualities in yourself and those around you, rather than the positive qualities.
In my opinion, being judgmental doesn't change anything about anyone, whether it's towards yourself or others. Don't be too hard on yourself if you've made a mistake or done something stupid and don't be too hard on others when they do the same thing. Shrug it off and move on, never dwell on it. Always remember that nobody is perfect, perfection is unattainable so why bother?!
4. Controlling Behaviour
Let's be honest, nobody likes a control freak, but as humans, it's in our nature to want to take control of everything around us. When we're not in control, it makes us feel vulnerable causing us to worry (like I said in point 1, not good!). Trying to take control of everything is a type of negative behaviour because, put quite simply, we can't control everything. Trying to take control will often result in failure, causing negativity to take full effect.
The secret to banishing controlling behaviour is simply to stop being such a perfectionist. Like I said in the last point, nothing and nobody is perfect so why are we even trying and pretending to be. You must take life as it comes and just enjoy it, don't let it pass you by because you're trying to stay in control of everything.
5. Doubting Yourself
Self-doubt is a terrible type of negativity and, unfortunately, a very common one. It goes hand in hand with worrying because as soon as that doubt appears, worry soon takes over. Even when you know you're entirely capable of doing something, self-doubt will take over and make you question everything you thought you knew.
The only way to get rid of self-doubt is to kill it as soon as it rears its ugly head. Whatever it is that you're doubting, tell yourself that you're capable, remind yourself exactly what you're doing and why and prove that voice in your head wrong. Remember that you're capable of anything you set your mind to!