7 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Care What Other People Think Of You
23 years of my life has been wasted on trying to please other people. I'm a self-confessed worrier, especially when it comes to other peoples opinions. I used to let kids walk all over me in school because I wanted everyone to like me. I've done things I didn't particularly want to do because I wanted people to think I was cool. I've gone on nights out and spent soo much money when all I've wanted is to be curled up in bed with a good book and a cup of tea because I was scared of letting people down by saying no. I've lived 23 years of my life as a doormat. Guess what guys, no more. I am enlightened in the art of not giving a sh*t, and I'm gonna teach you how to be enlightened to. Here are 7 reasons why you should stop caring now!
1. You are an awesome human being.
As long as you know who you are and your reasons behind everything you do, you have nothing to explain or feel sorry about (as long as you're not hurting someone else intentionally, if thats the case, you should explain and you should feel sorry). Be individual, be YOU. If someone doesn't like the real you, do you really want to be their friend? No. So do you really care what they think?
2. Everyone has flaws (inside and out).
Even the most popular people have things they don't like about themselves. Whether it be an annoying voice, small boobs, weird looking feet or crooked teeth, most flaws are things that can't easily be changed and in reality, they're not as bad as you think they are. Everyone deals with insecurities, you're not the only one.
3. You have no control over what other people think.
Wouldn't life be so much easier if you did? Everyone has an opinion and its almost impossible to change someone's opinion once it's been formed. So why bother exhausting yourself? If someone has a certain opinion on you; that's their problem, it's not yours. People will think what they want, but that reflects more on them than on you.
4. You can't please everyone.
Much like the above, you can't please everyone. You can try, but I promise you, you won't get far. Everyone is different; what one person like another doesnt, what one person believes is right another won't. You just can't win. As long as you're doing what's right by you and your values and beliefs, then it's nobody else's concern. They can either like it or leave it.
5. Negativity breeds negativity.
If you guys have never heard of the law of attraction, check it out (I recommend reading The Secret). The basis of it is that you attract everything that comes into your life with your thoughts. If your thinking negative things, you'll attract negative things. So stay positive and be optimistic, you'll be instantly likeable for that. Nobody wants to be in the company of a Negative Nancy.
6. You'll have more time, energy and money to spend on the things that YOU want to do.
Have you ever wanted to go out shopping for some new things but don't have the money because you spent it all on a night out you didn't even want to go on in the first place? Have you ever spent so much of your energy on other people that you've been too tired to do what you want to do? If the answer is yes, then this point is for you. Stop doing things you don't want to. Stop it now!
7. Your life isn't yours if you care too much about what other people think.
Sad, but it's true! You're not really living if you're putting everyone else before yourself. Be selfish! You don't exist to please those around you, so why are you doing it? The sad truth is that there are a lot of people out there who aren't going to like you for their own selfish reasons and you could exhaust yourself trying to change their mind. My advice? Don't bother. If they don't like you, screw them, they're not your problem.
These six points have been my life saver and they could be yours too! Promise me one thing, that you'll take these points on board and go out and live YOUR best life! Life's too short to not enjoy it. I believe in you!